How to Start Over

How do you start over in dating? I feel like I'm picking up a torch dropped from a previous relationship and I just want to rush to the finish. I don't know how to start from the ground up every time I meet a new guy, and in not doing this I'm becoming more emotionally unhinged more often (which I'm not getting away with). I actually cried in a bathroom stall the last time I went on a first date. I'm over my previous boyfriends individually, but I'm still at that level of readiness to settle down - but I guess dating isn't like transferring schools (which I know so well), you can't take your credits and still be at softmore level.

Of course, I know what I need to do and how I need to act.  I hate logic, but fuck, I hate always being alone too.